Hi, I’m Jen, and I’m a therapist. I know that if you’ve never been, the idea of going to therapy can be daunting. Many new clients tell me they have no idea what to expect, from wondering what therapy will be like to what they can hope for in terms of relief from what’s bothering them.
Essentially, I do “talk therapy plus,” which means speaking through some of the things on your mind and finding the recurrent themes to figure out what is important to work on. From there, we use experiential methods to help you embody what’s bothering you. This simply means feeling and experiencing through your body versus just your mind. We did it all the time when we were kids. Doing this can help us return to a deeper, more joyful experience in the world.
These methods can include role play, making art, and focusing on the sensations in your body. These are interwoven throughout the session. Sometimes we talk more; sometimes we do less talking and play more.
It may be helpful to understand my philosophy about psychotherapy. To begin, the word therapy comes from the Greek word therapeuein, which means to attend, guide or serve. Psyche translates, loosely, to “soul.”
As I see it, it is my role as therapist or counselor to attend, guide, and serve my client’s psyche (soul) to remove some of the barriers so they can pursue healthy and spiritual development. This means treating the whole self.
This psychotherapy definition is radically different than the one since Freud’s time, in which therapists treated only the mind- “talk therapy.” That approach excludes the body.
Talking alone cannot encompass the experience of the whole person. It’s like texting as the only means of communication: it gives us some information, but leaves out so much. And, as Bessel Van der Kolk says, the body keeps the score, meaning that everything that happens to us (including trauma) is stored in the body.
This is why what I do (“talk therapy plus”) is so effective. It helps us find clues as to what is beneath your words, ego, and persona. Your body speaks through movement, presence, and creativity. For example: Paying attention to how your breathing changes as you tell a story tells us so much about where you are limited and where you are free. Making art gives us another window into how you actually feel versus how you wish you felt.
All of this said, I know that the idea of experiential therapy can be scary. We spend so much time trying not to be vulnerable, especially in the presence of others, so this can be unfamiliar and even terrifying.
This is why I take it slow and move as slowly as you need. I do this because you can’t do the work if you’re stressed, AND iIf change happens too quickly it can overwhelm or even trigger you..
It’s like fasting: we don’t want to release toxins so quickly that it makes you sick. Moving at a slower pace means that when you do experience positive change, it sticks.
You are the expert on yourself. I’m not here to tell you what to do or to judge your decisions. I am here to witness as you explore some painful places and try on new ways of being. But in the end, my primary role is to help you accept all of you.